By Mackenzie Young
I’ve noticed that the Church almost always speaks of singleness as merely a season of life – a precursor to a bigger, better time, a time to be married, a time to mother and raise children in Christ’s name.
But being single is not an “issue” to be fixed.
Your walk with the Lord is a solitary walk, filled with an entire Church to point and lead you toward Him. Your duty as a disciple of Christ is to point everyone you meet toward Christ – not merely your husband. If you believe your sole ministry is toward your future husband, it might be time for a heart check.
Being “content in your singleness” is not the point, Church. It’s about Him – whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married.
Celibacy is a beautiful vow, and the Church almost never talks about it. Why wouldn’t we praise someone for literally devoting themselves to God, both in this life and the next? Remember that Jesus calls us to leave behind our nets in favor of a life following Him (Matthew 4:20). Sometimes, relationships can hold believers back from a full life with Christ – meaning a relationship can be a “net” that we must cast aside.
When you are single, your time is His, and you are more able to fully devote yourself to Jesus.
“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord” (1 Corinthians 7:34-35).
We need, as a Church, to listen to the women that are single and feeling out of place in our home. We need to acknowledge that we have been excluding singles from the table for a long time, and that our Lord, a single man, was the one that set the table for us.
Remember Jesus’ words during the parable of the wedding banquet: “At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven (Matthew 22:30). No one will be married in Heaven, and everyone’s endgame is Heaven, not marriage.
Sister, keep close to your heart the knowledge that Christ Jesus spent His entire human existence unmarried. His example is the perfect one to follow during your years of singleness – whether they are short or lifelong.
As a single woman, your yes is freely given to Him. The world is yours to behold, to travel, to love well. Your capacity to love is defined by Christ, and your cup is ready to be poured out into the entirety of His church. Therefore, rest in the truth that Jesus has claimed you as His love, and your love story began the day you chose to give your life to Him.