By Tina Huang
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Take a moment to reread those wonderful words and actually let them sink in…it seems impossible to find a love that encompasses all of those attributes. But that is just it. God’s love is the only love that fully satisfies. He is not easily angered; He is patient with our faults. When we forget to call, when we’re stressed and angry, His love is unwavering. He always perseveres. He’s never late, never gets lazy, never gives up. God is love (1 John 4:16).
Paul writes in Corinthians that faith, hope and love are important, but without a doubt, love is the most important. That is why we crave the attention of others, why relationships interest us and why we chase the love of a man.
But chasing that love is foolish. In fact, pursuit of this romantic love makes us forget the ultimate form of love- God’s love for us. He loves us so much that He gave his one and only Son (John 3:16). How many people do you know who would make that sacrifice to save others? Put yourself in that position. God’s act of love was exceptional. We forget the fact that we are already made whole by His love for us. We are not here searching for our other half. We are complete in Jesus.
Think: Dance with God and He will let the perfect man for you cut in. And that man is one that has been focused on pursuing the Lord and becoming a godly man, but he will look up for once. And he will see you because the Lord told him to. That is how special you are to the Lord. But it will be through God’s perfect timing, not your own. And while man sees the outward appearance, He is looking at your heart (1 Samuel 16:7). He’ll know when your heart is ready. Be content and thankful for the season of life you are in (Ecclesiastes 3).
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6
This means that it is okay to be single. In fact, it is admirable to be single. It means you see the beauty of your perfection in Christ. It means you have the high standards every woman should have and that you have not lowered them. It means you have confidence and stability in your character; you understand your singleness has to do with God’s timing, not your inadequacy. When you pursue a relationship outside of God’s timing, it WILL bring heartache and pain in the end.
There is true beauty in singleness. God knows you’re single. He has placed you in this position for a purpose. And God does not ever do anything out of spite. Every intention is out of a pure heart. Take this time to become the woman that the Lord intends for you to be for Him and for your husband. Read Proverbs 31. A beautiful heart and soul will never fade like beauty does.
Mature in your compassion, kindness, humility and gentleness (Colossians 3:12) before you get into a relationship.
Just as you are seeking a godly man, a godly man will be seeking a godly woman. Work on becoming one. Take this time to let God romance you, to build that strong relationship with the Lord. Singleness is the opportunity God has given you to seek after Him. And when this season of your life passes and you meet that godly man, you will bring each other closer to the Lord. You will run together on the amazing, wondrous path toward the arms of our Savior.